We got perhaps the BEST fan question ever last week.
A fan question, that each of us as adults, and parents HAS to at least ask ourselves from time to time.
When it comes to softball, and softball parents and players – most of us identify the it as a “WE” relationship. But is it REALLY a WE?
Certainly, a parent must be committed to their daughters desire to play the sport both with time and money – and when our kids are very young we are still pretty much in charge of, and responsible for everything that they do.
But once they get older – say 6th grade, 12U, (When participation awards lose their charm, the act of entitlement has to be broken if our daughters are to grow up as healthy, responsible and even happy individuals) the child HAS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE. They have to start DOING THEIR PART.
After all, playing is a privilege offered by parents and guardians, but it is not just a given.
We, as parents may be guiding the ship – but we cannot do it, or accept responsibility for where it goes all by ourselves. If we do, if we try – we don’t do our most important job as parents. Raising self confident, secure, able-bodied, young women who are willing and able to accept responsibility and consequences for themselves.
The question posted on our Facebook page was this:
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable!