WARNING to all SOFTBALL PARENTS!

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So here’s the warning. DO YOU. DO YOUR FAMILY. When your girls are young, play for the fun and the challenge and the growth that your child needs. HOLD TO YOUR MORALS. HOLD TO YOUR OWN VALUES. Try not to feel threatened everytime you run into your former teammate who is shitting glitter about the new, big, best, travel team they are on. Stay calm.

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What the Heck Is Going on in Her Head!?!?! | Softball is For Girls

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So why all this oversharing you ask? You don’t know what these girls are going through. You don’t ever really know what happened today at school, or in the dugout out of earshot. If you are wondering what is going on with one of your players because they seem distant, or off – try hard not to make a spectacle or example of her, especially if this is not her norm. Learn how to read the room when it comes to these girls. They have bad days, that as adults we would say they are just being silly. We can tell them all the right things, but I promise you – they still get hurt and question their worth on the daily. Extra in today’s world of fake.

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WORTH IT | Softball is For Girls

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We are really excited to introduce you to Randi, who will be helping us a get a better look “Inside the Fence” of the softball field. Randi is A LOT of things that make her perfect as a contributor here at Softball is For Girls…. She is a former cut-hroat travel ball competitor, the DAUGHTER of a legendary softball coach, a ‘retired’ COLLEGE softball player, the wife of a former high level travel ball coach, a HIGH SCHOOL coach (softball & lacrosse), a High School teacher, and a mama to two beautiful girls. So, shes been “Inside that fence” for a long time and sees and hears and KNOWS things that clearly….we just can’t or don’t or shouldn’t know…She is that person that the players go to and say “Please, Randi – I know my mom wants me to pitch but can you please put me in the outfield?” She is also insightful, empathetic yet EXTREMELY CUT-THROAT COMPETITIVE (like, will do anything to win) – and has a great understanding of what it takes to do just that. So Welcome, Randi!

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We Failed. Miserably. Read on! | Softball is For Girls

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No laughing. I thought how this could change lives. I thought about how words of kindness could literally change the course of someone’s life, especially because we NEVER EVER EVER know what these kids are going through on the day to day. I thought about the kindness of strangers I’ve encountered in my life as a confused teenager who made an impact.

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Saying I Love You, Softball Style…| Softball is For Girls

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Sometimes, love doesn’t look like a Hallmark Card. In fact, most times it doesn’t. It doesn’t come wrapped up in a package with hearts, and it isn’t spoken out loud with the common words we are all accustomed to hearing. Sometimes, saying I love you, especially softball style – is more about what we do…

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Addie | The Girl Who Forgot How to Pitch

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So, why I share my story is because I want other people – the non-players (parent, coaches) to know how much pressure can be on the players from a young age. Especially when they are very talented. I was always heralded for doing so good under pressure, it was one of my gifts. And, I loved the game more than anything in the world. I loved to pitch more than anything in the world. But there was also an immense amount of pressure on me. Fear of losing a game, of making a mistake. Fear of disappointing people. Fear of someone replacing me. Fear of not being validated by making it to a D1 college. Fear of being useless if I couldn’t pitch. So much fear that I never really digested or realized.

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An Open Letter from the Benchwarmer | Softball is for Girls

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So here is what I want to say. At some levels of this game – sure, the benchwarmer has a big responsibility. But if you and your team are just playing local tournaments, and a fun World Series – albeit competitive, please stop adding benchwarmers to your team. Warm bodies, just in case. And please stop telling the benchwarmers that they just have to work a little bit harder, and then when they do – going out and finding someone else, or a pick up player to do what us benchwarmers thought we were going to get a chance at doing.

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